Wednesday 21 March 2018

WAKE UP... SISTER......





WE DON'T HAVE THIS KIND OF PHOTOS,BUT WE SHARE SUCH EMOTIONS



HEY,SISTER


I know you are going through tough phase where balance of work-social life-personal care has been disrupted due to too much responsibilities on your young shoulders after marriage .

Many times you have to behave according to other people's (in laws ) wish,which is not your natural style. You have to wear clothes which is not your choice and which doesn't suit your personality.

We both know that in our INDIAN culture ,we have to work really hard to please everyone ,not only in our family but other far far relatives too.In an attempt to not to hurt anyone , You have taken many blows on your mind.


Being  your elder brother and sensitive individual,I also don't like many our old rituals and formality centered behaviour. I know our society give more space to boys to express their emotions then girls, which I personally don't like and I always try on my part to bring this change ,wherever I can.

Unfortunately,INDIA is the biggest loser ,in providing enough opportunity to women till now


But my lovely younger  sister ,Rule of change is that we need to bring change within ourself first before bringing it outside.
         
I always want to see you happy and healthy ,because your unhappiness makes me uncomfortable and inability to interfere in your social life due to fear of consequences on our parent's life make me feel helpless many times.

Today I want to tell you that, you have to give birth to COURAGE in your being ,because our creator (GOD) has given this ability to give birth to life ,only to girls, then how can you be so weak , not to bring this change in your life on your own?

Nature/God's  most sensitive and caring yet highly vulnerable creation is woman , but the same sensitivity which is capable for nurturing life ,when needed can be transformed into strength of goddess KALI.

"DON'T LET YOUR SENSITIVITY TO BE PERCEIVED AS YOUR WEAKNESS." #mypersonalspaceforsensitivesoul

ENOUGH OF SOCIAL OBLIGATION,LIVE CAREFREE BY REACHING TO THE TOP


Time has come in our world when every girl needs to realize that,they are complete without any life partner.

"DON'T LET YOUR  HAPPINESS/HEALTH  BE DEPENDENT ON OTHER GENDER"

And SIS,

Do you remember, Me and You both have experienced  hostel life,where we learned to take total care and responsibilities  of our self when our parents were not there to protect us or take care of us.

We both have been gifted by caring and helpful parents and financial Problems throughout our life ,which we took as challenge and always worked hard to overcome them.

We  believed in meritocracy and never took shortcut in our life and achieved everything on our own (skill/talent ).

Time has come ,where life has given us enough experiences to face any challenges and now its up to us how we can shape our life.

Don't be like every other INDIAN GIRL, WHO happily remain victim throughout her life and be jealous of other successful woman.  NO...YOU NEED TO FIGHT ...


Don't you know life story of these women,who made big impact on whole world,make them your idols,read their biography ,about how they overcame tough phase and became inspirations for many.


THESE ALL ARE WOW WOMEN..YOU ALSO HAVE SAME ZEAL WHICH CAN MAKE YOU WOW..


Do you know only Indian players to won Olympic medals in badminton ,both are girls.(Saina Nehwal, P.V.Sindhu)

Saying all this thing , you need to remember , Personal growth will happen only when you will take ACTIONS(DECISIONS).


DECISION SHAPE OUR DESTINY ,TAKE ONE OF IT NOW




Start Your JOURNEY with  one decision ,that you are not going to succumb to any situations ,  
followed by improve your personality with DEEP KNOWLEDGE and  GREAT COMMUNICATION SKILLS.

DEEP KNOWLEDGE WILL EARN YOU RESPECT AND LOT OF POWER

ALL THE PROMINENT PERSONALITIES OF WORLD HAVE THIS SKILL,CHECK YOURSELF


Good news is ,you can learn all this skill ,because you have done this in past ,its time to Expand your Horizon and Imagine yourself as A Strong individual for that,

1.START READING BOOKS (start with WHO MOVED MY CHEESE?)

2.EDUCATE YOURSELF WITH NEW SKILLS (sharpen your teaching skill)

3.LEARN COMMUNICATION SKILLS (MOST IMP) (Internet has many videos on same topic)

4.Exercise  daily (Fit people have more advantage)
THIS IS THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSLF


Have you Observed ,Its just because of lack of last skill ,you are not able to express your Emotions .


STOP WATCHING TELEVISION FOR ENTERTAINMENT ,TIME TO BE REALISTIC .

I know you watch many daily sop of BALAJI telefilms,which is not at all reality ,but  it also drains you of your vital energy.

I know you hate many females ,who are not of good nature,but did you pay enough attention, why they are doing that thing ,not because they love to be vamp,but because they never got chance to get enough education (like our parents) or they wasted opportunities after they got secured in life.

If you won't take actions/decision now, one day you will become like them.

                 
                   
ONE SENTENCE WHICH IS TIMELESS ..ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS.


There is no GOD  other than life .MAKE SURE YOU EXPERIENCE IT TO HIGHEST LEVEL.
               -OSHO RAJNEESH


YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN FREEDOM TO CHOOSE YOUR LIFE,CHOOSE BRAVELY.


Why I am telling you all these things , because I know  YOU well,You have many dreams which you want

to fulfill , but due to fear of society (what people will think ) leads to paralysis of action , addiction

 to comfort zone (security ) leads to PROCRASTINATION  and so called obligations to family 

and friends (leads to mediocrity)  is preventing you ,which you are not ready to accept .



TO LIVE LIFE WITHOUT REGRET ,IMMEDIATELY FOLLOW THIS


START TODAY,take that first step towards GOLDEN future for being  FINANCIALLY AND SPIRITUALLY INDEPENDENT human .


TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME. DON'T THINK MUCH ,JUST FOLLOW WHAT YOUR HEART SAYS ,BECAUSE IT ALREADY KNOWS WHERE TO LEAD YOU .

DEEPER TRUTH OF LIFE

AND YES, LAST BUT VERY IMPORTANT

DON'T TRY TO SEE WHOLE PICTURE ,IT WILL BECOME CLEAR ON ITS OWN TIME, YOU START ENJOYING JOURNEY OF NEW LIFE FROM HENCE ON WARDS ..



"IT'S TIME TO WAKE UP , WORLD CELEBRATES VICTORIOUS , NOT VICTIMS."
#mypersonalspaceforsensitivesoul



YOUR BROTHER,

WHO WANTS TO SEE YOU AS A BRAVE AND INSPIRATIONAL PERSON. #mypersonalspaceforsensitivesoul





Wednesday 7 March 2018

A BORN WOMANIZER

             
                           HELLO THERE, TODAY IS INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY.

AND I WANT TO CONFESS SOMETHING TODAY, WHICH I WAS NOT ABLE TO SPEAK TO ANYONE

                                                      WELL , THE CONFESSION IS ,

                            I AM A BORN WOMANIZER AND I AM PROUD OF THAT..


BORN WOMANIZER !!!! YES ,YOU READ IT CORRECT

#MY FIRST TOUCH TO WOMAN#


August 21, 1986   On this day first women came in my life. 
I didn't know the name of that woman at that time, but she was very caring .
whole day she was with me, whenever I cry for various reason , she immediately take me in her hands ,hugs me, kisses me and then allow me to drink milk from her breasts.
She pampers me, cleans my foul smelling ,different color and consistencies Potty.
No matter whether it was a midnight or early morning ,
weather she was tired or sleepy ,she was always ready to make me feel secure ,safe and satisfied.

As I Grew up, I started calling her MAMMY(MOM) , she always used to remember which kind of food I am fond of and even remind others too,with proud that her son is so special and he has very particular choice in all things.

when we used to travel in State bus ,which didn't had AC or any other cooling devices , I used to beat her, out of irritation from heat, but she never beat me in return ,neither she complained that it was my fault..I never understood why she was behaving like that.

13th dec 1988 ,another woman came in my life, I didn't know her name too, still whenever anyone wants to play with her , I  used to become so possessive and angry and won't allow anyone to come near her.
As i grew i got to know that ,she is my sister and that too younger , so I  have to look after her and protect her . But   I used to play with my cousin brothers and whenever we cousins had  a fight ,out of 
my inability to express my anger to elder and powerful cousins, I vent out my anger on my sister. she used to cry but never ever she told me that she hates me.
#A WAY OF HINDU TRADITION TO KEEP BONDING OF SIBLINGS ALIVE# 


As we both grew up , when she started living in a Hostel , I realised how  delicate and wonderful she is , she always support me in fight between me and my father. I never understoond why she was behaving like that.


#A WAY TO CHECK STRENGTH OF  THAT BONDING#


17th sept 2003 , I entered in college life (DENTISTRY) with many fantasies in my mind . I always love to be in girls company ,and I never feel ashamed of that ,though most of my colleagues (boys) didn't like that.
I used to talk with all girls in my class with equal interest , and give respect to all. I had attraction to one or two of them , but  I didn't find any emotional connection with any .

17th feb 2005, out of playing some random game , I wrote a letter to one of a girl of my batch about what I like about her and I considered her as my best friend .After that day , we started reading together in Library  . We talked for hours , I didn't know till then how to talk with girls (AS I studied in boys school only). She taught me about Dressing sense (to be honest , I had pathetic dressing sense before that ).
We used to discuss about our childhood days . I from kind of bitter mindset (because of traumatic /poor child hood ) and she from extra sweet mindset . Her extra caring nature removed painful memories from my mind. Whenever she was late for any outing  we used to plan, I used to shout on her a lot ,still on next day ,she used to bring CHOCOLATE and an  apology later .
whenever I asked her about why she care for me a lot , didn't YOU have  fear of breakup or my affair with other girl?
#ME with my ONE and only woman of BEDROOM and BATHROOM# DR AVNI SHAH  ...#mypersonalspaceforsensitive soul
and she used to tell me that she has 
trust on me , that too, BLIND ONE

This one sentence ,gave me tremendous courage and strength in my life to fight many battles.

I didn't understand till date ,from where did she bring that TRUST?

BABY SHOWER ..background was designed and created by TO BE MOM...she is super duper  creative..

.# 7 YEARS.. POST MARRIAGE # STILL COLOURFUL AND GLOWY#

On, 24 th jan 2017 ,one more woman came in my life , when I was struggling with my professional career, not able to present my self in best way to my patients and students . when I had many ideas but not able to execute them in proper manner because of lack of organisational power of brain.. One girl with infinite enthusiasm and super creative zeal met me in my working place.
In initial days , I used to talk less with her  ,because of my inner struggle.as days passed on , I STARTED noticing  that due to her extraordinary ability to manage schedule and put things in proper order, everything started working in my favour and became easy for me. Then we both started sharing our common creative ideas . Due to her one line " I WILL MANAGE ,SIR" I used to sleep well.
 HER dedication and passion towards work , reignite my inner fire which i lost somewhere due to overburden or may be due to too much negative experiences.
APART FROM passion , her SUPER AMAZING KNOWLEDGE OF ONLINE MARKETING AND DOING THINGS IN INTERESTING MANNER , last one year was a wave of  unfolding of many talents and skills from my side, which I never thought i would be able to do.

We had many fights , but she never allow those problems to come in between work and commitment towards students .
Whatever I am writing on this blog is all because of her .Starting from technical knowledge about blogging to providing motivation about writing , I owe her a lot.


whenever , I ask her why she is doing all this for me, she used to say  'BECAUSE ,SIR I WANT WHOLE WORLD TO KNOW ,HOW GOOD A TEACHER AND WRITER YOU ARE".
I NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHAT I DID TO GET HER FROM UNIVERSE .


#GIFT FROM UNIVERSE# Dr starry john #  

So , from my birth to this women's day , I have always been surrounded by women.

From satisfying my physical hunger to providing me safety,
from accepting me with all flaws of mine to enhancing my career to new heights.
everywhere I have been EMPOWERED by WOMEN.


ONE OF THE  MOST INFLUENTIAL SPIRITUAL MASTER AND MYSTIC  
OSHO RAJNEESH SAID ONE THING ABOUT WOMAN ,WHICH I HAVE EXPERIENCED IN MY LIFE.
WHO ARE WE (MEN) TO EMPOWER , TO  ONE WHO IS EMPOWERED BY GOD #my personal space for sensitive soul

# From childhood to youth to old age , i believe this sensitive side of god (woman) makes life worth living #


I love all the women , who made me human from instinctive animal, who gave meaning to my life.

I am no one to empower you , WHAT I can do is ,  to SHOW RESPECT ,CARE ,LOVE AND PRAY for  masterpiece of our creator.



#LOVE UNIVERSE# LOVE WOMEN#WOMANIZER#mypersonalspaceforsensitivesoul





Sunday 4 March 2018

EXTRACT ...DRINK....DANCE ..IN A REPEAT MODE...



Hey, do you know?


what?


Famous Bollywood actress SRIDEVI died At the age of 54.


FIRST FEMALE SUPERSTAR OF BOLLYWOOD




so what ?


Bro, i was thinking since morning , life is so fragile, anything can happen to anyone .Life is so uncertain ,man !!!


whats the point ,man?


This is what my exact question is .what is the point of life ,when everything is uncertain?


Ohhhh..now i got your point.I will answer your question but first I will ask you one question ,if you give me answer of that question , I will share my answer..okkk?


okk.brother..Ask me..I AM READY .

well, Here is the story .



Before more than 3000 years ago, there was a small village ( population 1200) in the desert area .


Every year ,around 20 people die due to lack of water and rain.People survive on very less water there. One day in a meeting of all villagers ,one young man proposes that we must do something to bring water in our area. Hearing this,most of so called wise,old people of village ,laughed and asked from where?


Boy said ,we need to search for it .i don't know exact place , but my heart says ,it has to be somewhere nearby .if we will search for it ,will find it soon and we can have easier life .


Nobody was ready to believe him ,and nobody was ready to go with him.


 So he decided to take this journey alone .



He didn't know from where to start ,so he started going in the direction of sunrise . After walking for almost 7 sunrises ,his food was almost finished ,still he didn't find any source of water. on the 8th day ,he saw a small pond having water ,surrounded by sand all around. he became happy ans started drinking water from that pond.when he was drinking water, one thought strikes him what is the source of this water?


He checked around ,but there was no river or lake .then an idea strike him .


Every year ,whatever amount of rain is there, all water must be absorbed by land.so there must be water beneath land in my village too.


So he ran back to village with great enthusiasm .Upon reaching he gathered all villagers , and told them that we must start digging our land ,near area of pond and we can get water beneath it.


Again everyone thought it is a waste of time and energy. and again that man, started digging on its own ,with limited resources. upon digging for around 6 months ,he didn't get any traces of water.


Every year those villagers ,celebrate one festival of dance to make rain god happy .In this festival mainly young people dance for three whole night and pray for rain.


All the villagers thought that,that young man wont participate in it, but to all surprises he danced for all 3 days .and again started digging his fortune in the form of water .


After around 14 months finally, he got that water from that land..everyone was in disbelief and praise for that man.

That small village area now became enriched with enough water because of many wells they made after success of first attempt by that young man. population started increasing because of less death and that area started becoming more rich due to farming of many different things.

after around 25 years , that young man was about to die ,due to one endemic infection ,whole village was praying for his health apart from his son.


His 20 years old son came to his father and asked ,what was the point of all this ,father?

you did so much ,for whole village,even when no one was ready to support you and now you are going ,not in a good way .i don't understand this.what should i do in my life ?

DRINK EACH DROP WITH TOTAL INVOLVEMENT,THEN YOU WILL BE LOST IN IT


His father replied , do you really want to know life"s secrets?

son : YES

FATHER : then always remember ..to EXTRACT..DRINK..DANCE..AND REPEAT..#my personal space for sensitive soul

SON: I DIDN'T GET THIS.

FATHER

Its our sensitivity and our ability to ask  question that makes us human.

          Life has many things to offer to humans ,but nothing is ready made.

                    The one who is ready to dig deep will be able to EXTRACT some juices,

But mind well, sometime those juices can be bitter. YOU NEED TO DRINK whatever taste it is..

AND you have to learn to DANCE  (sometimes alone , sometimes in group and sometimes you will be in the centre )  even after drinking bitter juices ,because you will need that vital energy to again start doing same EXTRACTING PROCESS with fresh mood.. 
                      It's always better to dance on your own tune than to peoples choice.#my personal space for sensitive soul

AND this whole journey of unfolding of life (people,places,situations,bitterness and sweetness ) and uncertainty of next big idea or next big change make LIFE  exciting and juicy. 

                                                             REMEMBER:

EVERYTHING START WITH YOUR SENSITIVITY AND ABILITY TO ASK QUESTION.





SO,MY FRIEND ,MY QUESTION IS FOR YOU ,TELL ME WHAT DID YOU LEARN FROM THIS STORY .?


Got it Brother ..LET ME START EXTRACTING JUICES OF LIFE ,  BEFORE I PASS ON....









Saturday 3 March 2018

Are you an OriGinal or IMITATIVE Personality ?

                               
Being unique is better than being perfect
                                                                                       unknown.


Originality is really important as it allows you to find something new from life which was unexplored.

                                                        This blogging thing is great ...

                                  It's been less than 30 hours and I am writing 3rd blog ..

I had no idea after my first blog what I was going to write in my second blog , and suddenly in the morning I felt tremendous emotional turmoil which led me to write that second blog about where to draw line between being social and original  person to keep our-self happy and healthy .




After that I got feedback from one of my student ( I am a teacher too,by passion ) about how to remain original .I had an instant answer ,but I thought this  complex question  requires elaborated answer ..


                                           so here is My ORIGINAL view on being Original.

           
                                     To Be Original means (my perspective )

1.Accepting one's nature as it is .

Here I am talking about various kinds of behavior ..If someone is shy..that is fine ..
Someone is extrovert that is fine ..someone is ambitious .that's fine ..someone is fearful and hesitant to take risky decision ..that's completely all right ..someone is aggressive and dominating ,that's is too super fine .

Now don't directly jump onto the conclusion by putting instinctive judgmental quality of human brain  at work..

These  different qualities are there in most people in more or less amount .
Every quality has its own advantage at certain situations and drawbacks as well.

But by taking birth with one quality at higher percentage and continuously denying it ,just because majority people are not supporting it..well that is not good way to live .

Having   human brain ,we can learn to transform those qualities for sure .We can adjust level of them according to situation, that's also fine .

But just because someone is giving you label of shy and introvert in a negative way ,should not create a turmoil in your being .

The moment you accept yourself ,you become beautiful
                                                                                Osho Rajnish
.
That's ME
(31 years old version of existence)
with my  SON
(31 Months NEW version of nature)
       BOTH ARE ORIGINAL



Step 2.    Take pride for being who you are ..

Yes .sound really easy . but most of the time ..we ( subconsciously/unconsciously ) condemn ourself based on our failures and inability to achieve few things  .

Well  , practically speaking ,we need to remind ourself life story of Steve jobs , MS Dhoni who also got many setbacks and still they were able to make significant change in this world by being original .

 But . .million dollar question is what if people in our surroundings don't like what we are and they reject us ?

Here lies the toughest part .
And you need to remember this

You can develop strength ,only against Resistance . 

And FOR the matter of fact, World is a big big place , if few people are not happy with your being , don't pay attention to them .



It's really biggest achievement of being original in this world ,where everyone is trying hard to make you like them.

And if you study biography of many legendary individuals like Gandhi , Sylvester Stallone ,Osho Rajneesh ,APJ Abdul Kalam ,you will find how they remain original to their nature irrespective of setbacks ,failures and opposition of many .

Well,you are not one of them..You are you ..


You are not going to be repeated again  .




WHAT'S  NEXT IN MY BLOG?

SO AFTER BEING ORIGINAL WHAT SHOULD WE PURSUE IN LIFE ?
CHECK THIS
http://mypersonalspaceforsensitivesoul.blogspot.in/2018/03/extract-drinkdance-in-repeat-mode.html






Friday 2 March 2018

YOU HAVE TO DRAW THE LINE

                          
                               Fame and Attention ,is what we all love to have in our life.
                                                       (another basic instinct of brain, I feel)

NOTHING IS MORE JOYOUS THAN THE FEELING OF ,PERFORMING  ON YOUR OWN TERMS#personalspaceforsensitivesoul


Not only it gives us psychological happiness but also helps in getting more advantages in professional career and getting more materialistic wealth  from which we can fulfill our desires and hobbies easily and feel superior to others and can live fulfilled ( Life of abundance ) life.

                                                                       BUT WAIT

Old definitions of fulfilled life is not working anymore in present time of really explosive use of social media . Here you can be hero on one day and other day people will judge you as villain .

Based on peoples verdict ,one day you will feel you are messiah(saviour) and other day ,you will be victim /survivor.

Old ways of aspirations of happiness is not working anymore ,as people used to follow all rich people ,and aspire and work hard to be one (As now we knew how corrupt most of them ).

And this question arises again and again ,so what is the purpose (meaning ) of life and more you read different books and blogs ,you get different answers all the time.

We try hard to full fill our empty life with providing meaning in different ways ,sometime by our profession , sometime by being helpful to someone , sometime by trying to be rich and creating imaginary (FANTASIES) experiences of future.
                                                                       
                                                                           BUT,

All this things work for short time duration and then you have to start again by providing new meanings to it. And this feeling of helplessness is not leaving us .

BUT does that mean life is meaningless ?  well NO, if you are having great time, everything is working in your favor .When everyday is super comfortable and no pressure on you to do handle .


                                                                            BUT,

We all live in a world of possibilities where everything changes constantly, so does our mind.

Fulfilment of one desire gives space to another one and this fire of desire is not allowing us to settle or relax at anytime. We always try hard to being relevant or significant to the world..

We have this fear of being invalidated  if we will not behave according to social scenario, we always try hard to maintain our identity (continuity ) based on peoples perception .



Fear of losing respect or favor from our friends or loved ones ,never allow us to behave according to our mood.

AND then one day this inherent individualistic nature of ours take revenge and we suffer from various illnesses and here we realize that , what we have learnt from various religious scriptures or books is BULLSHIT.

 HERE we learn in painful ways that we need to draw the line between being original to our self and being martyr of social expectations#personalspaceforsensitivesoul

TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM LIVING REGRETFUL LIFE,  DRAW THAT LINE ASAP.

 Do what you like /love ,If  it  changes everyday then also don't try to explain yourself to others .

INSTINCT OF BEING ACCEPTED BY ALL IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF MISERY.#personal space for sensitive soul





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